Everyone should be loved, but no one is obligated to give love. A couple of experiences this week led me to post this. 1. A friend (former friend?) of mine posted on Facebook that it doesn’t matter if you love someone that they are not obligated to love you. He said that it is you shouldn’t be offended and should just accept that people don’t need to love you. Now, I don’t completely agree. This is what I believe: You don’t have to reciprocate someone else’s love, but you must act accordance to social kindness and let them down timely and gently. You shouldn’t string a friendship or a lover along, just because it makes you feel good. If you don’t love them and you don’t think you want to try or ever will love them, then explain to them that your relationship cannot go on. Be fair to them and be fair to yourself. 2. I work for a school for adults with High-functioning Autism and Asperger’s and a lot of them struggle. Many of them have had hard lives. I had a student come in my office and tell me that her new adopted father told her that she deserved everything her biological mother did to her. Her biological mother abused her in every way, shape, and form. I was disgusted. It really broke my heart. Nobody deserves to be treated like that. She deserved and deserves better. She should be loved. But often times, we must give love in order to receive love. Other times, we must receive love before we’re ready to give it. So look around you. Look within you. Do you feel loved? Are you giving love? Don’t force others to love you and don’t force yourself to love others. Love is a gift. Receive it openly and give it openly. If you find that love is lacking in your life…please know that God still loves you. If you don’t believe in God, believe that there is something greater than you out there that knows you, understands you, and loves you. Find love in simple things. Most of all, give love. Give it in simple ways. Trust me, those small acts of love results in miracles (even if you don’t see the miracles happen. Those who experience it will know).
“God’s love is there for you whether or not you feel you deserve love. It is simply always there.” ~ Thomas S. Monson